Friday, January 3, 2025

The Remains of the Day


 One of the best books of the decade” it says on the front. Winner of the Nobel Prize in literature. I expected a lot. But as I read, I felt I was just reading about the quiet, methodical, structured life of a butler (Stevens)- a man wholly dedicated to his profession; A man who virtually had no private life. It was all so understated. It was sad. But as Stevens drives on a once-in-a-lifetime road trip, he reminisces on events in his life. Each experience he shares is poignant and gives so much food for thought. This is a book I will keep and I will reread. As I finished, I realized I had truly been in the presence of greatness. The lessons are subtle, yet profound. I can’t stop thinking about it. It made me want to use “the remains of my day” to the fullest. I hope Stevens will too.

Social Studies Repentance

 


In 8th grade, I had Mr. Roeloff for Social Studies.  I had heard about him and had so hoped I would not get him for my teacher.  He had a reputation for being a very difficult and demanding teacher.  He also hated Mormons, but that is a different story for a different day.  Well, maybe not.  I will just tell it now:  He put a question on a test every year: “It is legal to kill a Mormon in the state of Missouri.”  True or False.   At that time, it was true.  The law was changed in 1976.  He also put another question on a test once that caused me great consternation.  I knew what answer he wanted me to put, but that answer was wrong.  I don’t remember the whole question, but I remember that part of the wording was “Joe Smith” instead of “Joseph.”  He knew that his question would cause dilemma for his Mormon students. Do we answer to get points or to be right?   It was his passive aggressive way to punish Mormons.  Anyway, back to my story:

  Mr. Roeloff’s goal was to teach us Social Studies, but also to teach us a study technique that could bless us and help us study even through college.  He told us this was the technique he used all through his college education.  He assigned us chapters to read each day.  But besides reading, we had to outline what we read.  He spent a great deal of time teaching us how to outline in his special method.  We all had spiral notebooks in which to do the outlining.  When we came to class, I think it was on Fridays, as I remember, we had to get our notebooks out and open to that week’s outlines.  He would walk around the room checking them and marking our grade in his book.  That outlining notebook represented a certain percentage of our grade.  The rest of the grade was made up of weekly quizzes and midterm and term tests.

I did the outlining for a while.  But then I fell behind.  Each day I got a little further behind.  Then it just seemed overwhelming to try to catch up. Each week, as Mr. Roeloff came to my desk, he would mark a 0 for not doing the assignment in his book.  I can still remember that horrible feeling as he came to my desk each week and marked another zero in his book by my name.

When midterm grades came out, which included our outlining assignments, I had a D-.   A D-!  I was so embarrassed to show my parents.  I explained to my dad why I had that grade.  He and I worked out what I could do to get that grade up.  My dad set up a card table for me in the living room.  Each night, I would work and work to make up the outlining I had neglected.  It was a struggle and way harder than it would have been to just do the assignments in a timely way.  But, cheered on by my dad, I was determined to get caught up.  I would sit alone in the living room, night after night, writing and writing.  I could hear the television on in the other room and wished I could be in there with my family.  But I diligently worked on getting caught up.

One day, just before the term grades came out, Mr. Roeloff stood before the class.  Believe me, I will never forget this moment:  He announced that at midterm there were 15 (as I remember it) students with failing or near-failing grades.  But only one of them had worked hard and pulled that grade up.  He didn’t announce who that was, but I knew.  He smiled at me.  Sure enough, when I got my report card, I now had a B+ in Social Studies.  I was so pleased with myself, and so was my dad.  I had learned a lot about Social Studies, but, maybe more importantly, I learned about keeping up in school and about repentance when I mess up.

 

Note:  I never used his outlining method again.  I had my fill of it that year.  But I did alright in high school and college anyway.

 

 

 


Thursday, January 2, 2025

Our Granddaughter is Very SMRTE

 Lisi is in kindergarten.  She is brilliant.  Her family was teaching her how to spell words.  They taught her some of the rules of spelling, then they were quizzing her- giving her words to spell.  They said, "You are so smart.  Spell smart."  She thought for a minute, then said, "SMRTE" The E tells the R to say his own name.



See, she is very SMRTE! 

Wednesday, January 1, 2025